Whenever something happens in my life that I didn’t expect or plan, I tend to lose the run of myself. I stress, spiral a little and start acting as if there is no possible way out. That is until I manage to get over myself and wonder how and why I let it get that far in the first place….
The older I am getting (I’m speaking from a maturing point of view here, I know I am not old!) the more I am realising that I have coping mechanisms I can use just as easily as letting myself spiral out of control. Let’s be honest here, I hate drama, but I always seem to create a small amount of the stuff whenever one of these situations presents itself. I think we all do to some extent.
Sweeping opinion aside, I would like to share a few tips that I find helpful in such situations. Anxiety and stress are not fun and they aren’t something to be made fun of. I know on occasion, I have made a joke about my own anxiety but that is in an attempt to help me and settle others around me. For those who haven’t suffered with stress and anxiety as badly as others, it can be a little confusing. So perhaps this list can help you to help your loved ones.
- Take a deep breath, and exhale.
When I had my first panic attack, I honestly thought I was about to die. I had never experienced anything even close to what was happening. I started holding my breath and I am not sure why I did. There was a paramedic onsite when it happened, and he picked up on my breathing and told me to stop holding my breath, that I was only panicking myself further. I know it is tough, but just breathe as normally as you can.
- Get a cup of tea
Not all forms of anxiety lead to the extreme of a panic attack. My issue is, unless I try to calm down, I will most likely have a panic attack. I find that sitting by myself in a quiet room, perhaps with some music, and drinking a cup of tea generally helps. Serenity is soothing.
- Cry if you need to
I don’t think I have a friend I haven’t cried in front of. If I can’t face something alone, 9/10 I will turn to a friend to get everything off my chest which normally ends in tears. Crying is good for the soul.
- Don’t cut yourself off.
I learned this one the very hard way. I was 19 when I first started experiencing more extreme forms of stress and anxiety due to things that were going on in my life. I shut everyone out for a good 3 months if not longer. It didn’t help me, in fact, it made me much worse. The hardest thing is to talk to someone, especially those closest to you. But maybe let them just sit with you. I found that helped me. Just having them in the same room.
I wouldn’t say I suffer from constant stress and anxiety. I would, however, say that I have experienced that scale in the past and it was awful to go through. To everyone out there who does suffer from anxiety, I am sending as much love as I can. I didn’t want to go into too much detail with this post, I didn’t feel it was my place to. But if you have any suggestions that can help those that do suffer, please share them. There are so many that would be so grateful to hear them.
Keep your head up and keep dreaming ❤️